You know what really irks me? This age old issue of “mommy competition!!” You know what I’m talking about, when you’re at a “mommy and me” thing or a birthday party and you meet someone for the first time and immediately they are comparing how they do things or they start handing out advice and you immediately get the impression that they’re not doing it to be helpful… Why do moms do this? What would it be like to live in a world where all moms supported each other?
I read a forum post a little while ago where a mom was reaching out because she was at her wits end with how to handle her son not wanting to go to bed. She posted that she locked him in the room with the lights out because she just didn’t know what else to do and was looking for suggestions from the group. Now granted, there are better ways to get your child to go to bed and stay in bed, but do you know what happened? She got reamed by all the mothers in the forum for being cruel and scaring her child. I was so upset by this because here was an exasperated mom who was actually ASKING FOR HELP and she was met with judgment from her mom community. Can you imagine how powerful that forum could have been if every one of those moms had stood next to her (in a virtual kind of way!) and offered words of encouragement and helpful suggestions that would actually work for her? WOW, she might have actually been able to help her son and learn some great parenting skills, but instead she probably won’t post for help again. Would you?
So I just want to put it out there – I know I’m not going to change the tide with one blog post, but you’ve got to start somewhere! Let’s pull together and support our fellow moms. Not just our close mom friends, but those that we see around us that really need a helping hand. You never know, it just may come back to you when you really need it!