No one loves to do “chores” especially kids, but you don’t want to be the one that picks up after everyone either, do you? Once your kids get to a certain age it’s good to get them involved in the day to day duties that have to be done around the house. It teaches them responsibility and gives them a sense that they belong and are needed. They might not like it all the time, but it really does help with a child’s development.
- Positive Reinforcement. Make sure to give praise, especially when they do something you didn’t ask for. This lets them know that you noticed their efforts and appreciated it. Don’t give general praise (“Wow, that’s terrific!”) give them something more meaningful (i.e. “Thank you so much, by doing that for me you saved me 20 minutes of work! Now we can both sit and relax together”)
- Give Them Ownership. By making them “in charge” of a chore they will have a greater sense of accomplishment when they complete it. It feels very different to be in charge of cleaning your room then to be told “you must clean your room” A subtle difference, but one that may alleviate some power struggles.
- Make It Fun! Turn on some music, dance while you clean or make a competition out of it. Anything that takes away the doldrums of the job.
- Explain To Them How They Are Helping You. If you tell them how they are helping you and the family by contributing, it will make it more meaningful than just saying “do it because I said so!” It gives them a sense of belonging.
- Keep the Chores Age Appropriate. While kids are certainly capable of a lot they shouldn’t be taking on adult roles and manning the house! Little ones can learn to pick up after themselves, older kids can be more involved but keep it kid friendly so they don’t get overwhelmed.
- Don’t Wait Until Night Time! Take care of the chores (and homework) after school, before play time begins. That way there is more incentive to get them done quickly!
You may still suffer grumbling even after doing all these things, but hopefully it will minimize it for you at least!!
How do you get your kids involved in doing the chores?? Let us know below in the comments!